Renew Your Marriage: Powerful Ways to Strengthen Your Love Every Day
Marriage isn’t a one-time “I do” – it’s a daily choice to say “I still do.” But let’s be real… some days, that choice feels effortless, and other days, well… not so much.
Seasons change. Kids grow. You change. He changes. And in the middle of it all, your marriage needs little moments to renew and strengthen your marriage—just like a home needs a refresh, a sourdough starter needs a feeding, or a garden needs tending.
Keeping Christ at the Center
My husband and I prioritize our relationship with God first and foremost. He is the center of everything we do. When we counsel young couples before marriage, we always remind them that it is no longer about “ME” in the relationship, but the “M” turns upside down and becomes “WE.”
Ephesians 5:25 reminds us, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” If a husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church, then that love is selfless, sacrificial, and enduring. And as a wife, my respect for him strengthens our relationship just as my love does.
When we put God first, everything else falls into place much more smoothly. Life isn’t perfect, but knowing we are both walking in the same faith brings a peace that nothing else can provide. Pray together daily, even if it’s just a short prayer before bed or in the morning. It strengthens your connection with God and each other.
Respect: A Key to Long-Lasting Marriage
Respect is something I’ve talked about in my Marriage Matters series, and it plays a huge role in keeping our marriage strong. If you want to dive deeper into this, check out my Marriage Matters series from last summer or the video playlist linked below.
Knowing when too much is too much—when to pause, breathe, and let go—is a form of respect that helps us keep balance in our home. Respect isn’t just about words; it’s about understanding, listening, and valuing each other’s needs.
Marriage requires learning how to give each other space while staying connected. It means being mindful of your spouse’s stress levels, recognizing when they need encouragement, and respecting their boundaries when they need a moment to breathe.
Helpful Tip: Use kind words intentionally. Even when discussing difficult topics, focus on respect and encouragement rather than criticism.
Prioritizing Your Marriage Even Over Parenting
Our children are a blessing, and they should be raised with love and care—but they will grow up and move on. And when that happens, I don’t want to look at my husband and feel like I’m living with a stranger.
If I haven’t learned how to live with him, converse with him, have fun with him, and just do life together, then what will we do when the kids are grown? Growth in marriage is vital. Keeping it alive is just as important.
We have to remember that marriage is a lifelong partnership. Investing in that relationship now ensures that when the nest is empty, the foundation of love, laughter, and companionship remains strong.
Helpful Tip: Plan regular date nights—even if it’s just a simple walk together or a coffee at home after the kids are asleep. Prioritize time alone.
Making Adjustments: Letting Go of What Doesn’t Work
Have you ever set up a pantry or organized a closet only to realize later that it doesn’t really work? You thought it would be great, but it turns out, it’s just not practical.
Marriage is like that too. We have to be honest about what’s not working, let go of old frustrations, and adjust to make things better. Just like rearranging the home, we have to rearrange and adapt in our relationships too.
Marriage requires seasons of adjustment. What worked in the newlywed stage may not work 10 years in, and that’s okay. The key is to be intentional about making changes together.
Helpful Tip: Schedule a “marriage check-in” every few months. Talk about what’s working and what could improve.
Marriage Is a Commitment—Not Just a Moment
When I said “I do,” I meant it—in sickness and in health, for better or worse, for richer or poorer. But marriage isn’t just about saying “I do” once. It’s about choosing each other every single day.
A house can be brand new, but if you don’t maintain it, it will eventually start to fall apart. A marriage is the same way—it requires care, work, and intentional renewal.
I don’t want my marriage to end up like an old abandoned home, falling apart from neglect. I want it to be rich and full of life, full of laughter, and something my children aspire to have (even though right now they think it’s “gross”).
They see our love—but they also see that it takes work to keep it strong.
Helpful Tip: Surprise your spouse with a small act of kindness—like a thoughtful note, their favorite snack, or a spontaneous hug. Little things go a long way.
Marriage Is About “We,” Not “Me”
Marriage isn’t about “me” anymore—it’s about “we.” Whether it’s working through challenges, celebrating victories, or simply doing life together, our commitment to each other is strengthened in the everyday moments.
So today—right in the middle of dishes, kids, work, and ministry—choose to renew your love.
Want more on marriage? Check out my Marriage Matters series and video playlist below!
