A Real-Life Reminder to Be Still

At a recent doctor’s appointment, he looked at me and said, “Susan, you need to slow down.”

I nodded politely, but inside I was thinking, Slow down? With what calendar? With what margin?

Still, his words stayed with me.

And not just his words, but it’s something the Lord has been dealing with me about during this time of perimenopause. I feel like I’m very aware of what’s going on with my body—even if I don’t completely understand it. I did all the research over the last few years trying to prepare myself for what is to come. My situation has been a little different with PCOS and Endometriosis (something many doctors still do not understand to this day). So to sit and be still just didn’t feel right. But I have known—and I think the Lord has pushed me to know—that it is necessary.

That reminder stirred something deeper in me, sending me back to a verse I’ve heard a thousand times—a verse that echoed the same message God has been whispering all along:

"Be still and know that I am God." — Psalm 46:10

It didn’t feel like a suggestion. It felt like an invitation.

To stop.
To breathe.
To remember Who holds it all together (hint: it’s not me).

I’ve been learning to listen to that invitation. Not just spiritually—but practically. I’ve started finding little ways to pause the noise and rest my mind:

• Sitting on the floor to play with my son—even when I have a million things to do.
• Soaking my feet in that little foot spa I bought and actually letting myself enjoy it.
• Sipping a hot cup of tea before the day takes off like a freight train.
• Letting my husband take over for a bit when I feel like I’ve hit a wall.

None of it’s fancy. None of it’s perfect. But it’s intentional.

And that’s the point.

What “Be Still” Really Means

When we hear “Be still and know that I am God,” it’s easy to think it means to simply pause and trust. And while that’s part of it, the Hebrew behind “be still” (raphah) actually means to let go, to release your grip, to stop striving.

It’s not passive—it’s active surrender.

It’s me unclenching my hands, loosening my shoulders, and saying, “Okay, God. I’m not holding this together—you are.”

That changes how I sit with this verse. It means I don’t just sit still—I surrender. I let go of the need to be perfect. I let go of my jam-packed schedule. I let go of the guilt for needing rest. And I make space to know—really know—that He is God and I am not.

Why Learning to Be Still Matters

If you’ve been feeling overstimulated, stretched thin, or emotionally drained—can I encourage you?

You’re allowed to pause.
You’re allowed to breathe.
You’re allowed to rest.

And not because everything is done. Not because your world is perfectly in order. But because God didn’t ask you to carry it all. He asked you to trust Him.

Sometimes trusting Him looks like moving forward in faith.
Other times? It looks like sitting down and letting Him carry you.

You don’t have to earn rest.
You don’t have to justify it.
You just have to say yes to the invitation.

Be still. Breathe. He’s already working.

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And even on the days when it feels like too much—

God is still enough.

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Opposites in Marriage

I married a man who thrives on spontaneity, while I thrive on plans. He likes to decide as we go; I like to map it out ahead of time. His way can throw me for a loop, but it’s good for me—it keeps me from becoming too stiff. In turn, my structure has helped him too. We’ve grown from learning each other’s ways, and our kids have taught us both to stretch in new directions.

However, when God changes the rhythm? That’s a whole different adjustment.

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A Swift Move That Changed Everything

Several years ago, after almost seven years of marriage, I was in prayer when I heard the Lord say, “Your move will be swift.” Naturally, I brushed it off. I loved our quiet little life out in the sticks, near family. Moving wasn’t in my plans.

Meanwhile, my husband and I had been praying to be used more in ministry, and we were happily serving as Youth Pastors at the church I grew up in.

Then one day, while visiting friends in Colorado, our car overheated climbing a mountain. We pulled over, and the phone rang. On the other end was someone asking if we’d consider pastoring a home missions church in Texas.

Texas?! No jobs, no house, no plan—just hotter weather and a whole lot of unknowns. Nevertheless, God confirmed it through prayer, a dream, and even the quick sale of our home after months with no offers.

Within a week, we were packing everything into storage and a trailer, moving toward something we couldn’t fully see but knew God had called us to.

Talk about having your rhythm completely upended.

5 Powerful Reminders for When Your Rhythm Feels Off

When your rhythm is disrupted, it’s easy to lose focus and let worry take over. These five reminders have anchored me in seasons when everything felt uncertain, and I hope they will do the same for you:

1. Find a Place to Pray – First, make space to talk with God honestly about your fears, frustrations, and hopes. Prayer shifts your perspective and aligns your heart with His.
2. Ask God to Cleanse Your Heart and Bring Peace – Next, when your mind feels cluttered, ask Him to wash away anxious thoughts and replace them with His calm.
3. Get into His Word – Then, let Scripture steady you when everything else feels shaky. Even a single verse can keep you grounded in truth.
4. Fast – Sometimes we need to quiet our bodies to hear God more clearly. As a result, fasting removes distractions and makes space for His voice.
5. Take One Small Step – Finally, remember you don’t have to fix everything at once. Just start where you are and trust Him with the next step.

Learning from Joseph’s Rhythm Shifts

I think of Joseph. His rhythm shifted over and over—from living with family, to slavery, to serving in Pharaoh’s home, to prison, and finally to a position where he saved his family and a nation.

When God moved us to Texas, I couldn’t see the full picture any more than Joseph could when he was in prison. All I knew was that my rhythm was gone, and I was stepping into the unknown. But just like Joseph’s obedience positioned him to save a nation, our obedience opened doors in ministry we never could have imagined. In other words, what felt like a complete disruption was actually God setting the stage for something greater.

Genesis 50:20 says, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.”

Joseph’s story—and our own—remind me that God’s hand is at work even when the rhythm feels chaotic. Trusting Him in those moments allows us to see the beauty of His plan when the pieces finally come together.

Walking Forward in His Rhythm

If your rhythm feels off right now, take heart—God has not lost track of you or your story. The beat may sound unfamiliar, but He is still the One leading the song. Therefore, trust the process, lean in to His timing, and allow Him to guide your steps one measure at a time.

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The Pastor’s Wife I Never Planned to Be

As a teenager, I boldly said I would never marry a preacher or a pastor. I didn’t. But God has a beautiful sense of humor—because here I am, a pastor’s wife of almost 20 years. What a ride it’s been!

Makin’ Macon was born during one of the most chaotic seasons of my life. I was walking through hardship and loneliness, particularly in ministry. I’ve always written in journals to process my thoughts, and when God nudged me to start a blog, I hesitated. Oh, I made every excuse you can think of. But deep down, I wanted to help other pastor’s wives who might feel the same way I did: faithful, but isolated.

Encouragement in the Chaos

What’s wild is how this blog quickly became a space for all women. Women juggling motherhood, homemaking, ministry, and all the messy parts of life. It’s grown into a place where anyone can find:

• Faith-based encouragement
• Easy, no-nonsense recipes
• Homemaking tips that don’t require perfection
• Natural wellness ideas, including essential oils

And most importantly, it’s a place where you don’t have to pretend. You don’t have to keep up with the Jones‘. You can show up in the chaos, and know that God is still right there with you.

My Walk, Shared With You

If you’ve read any of the encouragement posts here, you know they come straight from my walk with the Lord. They’re not manufactured or planned months in advance. They’re lived, prayed through, and shared as He leads. I always pray they meet you right where you are.

There have been many moments when I’ve asked God, “Are You sure You still want me to do this?” And right when I feel unsure, He sends a comment or email from one of you letting me know how something I wrote encouraged you. Or maybe it was a recipe that helped your week go smoother. Or an oil blend that brought relief.

YOU are the reason I keep showing up. God uses your words to remind me that this work is for His glory, not mine. I may never meet many of you in person, but I feel connected to this little community in such a powerful way.

No Perfection Required—Just Faithfulness

Starting this blog was never about building a brand. It’s always been about pointing you to Jesus. My hope has always been that when you read a post or an email, you feel a little lighter, a little stronger, and a little more reminded that God doesn’t expect perfection. He just asks us to be faithful.

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. Colossians 3:23-24 NIV

Exciting News: The Podcast Is Here!

Now for the latest big news—and what a way to celebrate our blog birthday! If you’ve been on the homepage or following on social media, you probably already know: Makin’ Macon now has a podcast. Yes, I said it! A podcast.Gasp.

Let me just say, it was a whole rollercoaster conversation with God to get here. But here we are. The first official episode releases this Wednesday, and I’d love for you to listen.

If you tune in, would you do me a favor? Leave a comment or message letting me know if it encouraged you. That feedback means the world.

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So here’s to another year of showing up, sharing encouragement, and walking this road together.

Rooted and Ready for Year Three

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Remember, I’m always praying for you, even if I don’t know who you are.

What Does It Mean to Flourish When Life Feels Chaotic?

The word flourish means to grow or develop in a healthy and vigorous way—especially when the environment is favorable. And let’s be real: environment does matter. It’s not always about having the perfect setting, but ignoring your surroundings can absolutely stunt your growth.

Psalm 92:12–15 says:

“The righteous will flourish like a palm tree... planted in the house of the Lord, they will flourish... They will still bear fruit in old age, they will stay fresh and green.”

I recently read a commentary that said palm trees don’t even start producing fruit until they’re about 30 years old—and the older they get, the more fruitful they become. If that doesn’t speak to the weary heart wondering if she’s “past her prime,” I don’t know what will.

How Your Environment Impacts Spiritual Growth

Speaking from experience—if my house is a wreck, with things scattered everywhere and no sense of order (even if it’s not spotless), my anxiety goes through the roof. The noise, the mess, the chaos… it all compounds.

If there’s constant tension between you and your spouse—short answers, raised voices, emotional distance—it’s hard to find peace, let alone flourish.

If your interactions with your kids feel more reactive than intentional, or you haven’t had a moment to just be with them, that starts to wear on your heart. And let’s be honest, when our time with the Lord is missing or rushed, our roots feel dry and disconnected.

It’s like a plant—without water and light, it begins to wilt. Same with us.

But here’s what I’ve learned: even when the environment isn’t ideal, small changes make a big difference. A five-minute tidy-up. A deep breath before reacting. A whispered prayer over the dishes. A cup of coffee and one Psalm.

Sometimes the soil is rocky, but roots still grow deep when they’re searching for the Living Water.

Before we dive into the practical, let’s be honest—chaos isn’t always external. Sometimes it’s the storm swirling inside us that makes everything harder. But here’s the good news: you don’t have to wait for calm to grow in grace.

When Chaos Takes Over: Learning to Flourish Anyway

This year did not go as planned. We didn’t set out to homeschool. My son and I are two totally different creatures—he’s free as a bird; I’m “let’s get it done and do it efficiently.” It’s stretched me in ways I didn’t know I needed stretching.

I inherited my mama’s go-getter personality: list-maker, perfectionist, fixer. And while those traits can be a gift, they also make it hard to breathe when the plan falls apart.

But here’s the shift I’ve been learning: flourishing doesn’t mean everything’s perfect. It means leaning in—even when nothing looks like you expected.

God doesn’t call us to perfect routines. He calls us to His presence. That’s where real growth begins.

How to Flourish When Life Feels Chaotic: Practical Ways to Grow

1. Start Your Day with the Word to Flourish Spiritually

I know—you’re tired. You’ve got littles clinging to your legs or teens who test your nerves. But I promise, five minutes in the Word can shift your entire day. Sing while you rock the baby. Pray while you stir the soup. Whisper Scriptures while you drive. The Lord hears it all.

And believe me, I’ve seen what happens when I don’t start my day with Him. It’s not pretty.

Even if it feels like you’re only catching tiny moments of truth, those moments stack up. They form the foundation that helps you flourish when life feels chaotic.

2. Stop and Smell the Roses (Literally)

The other day, my daughter looked at me and said, “Mom, you’re always busy doing something.”

Ouch.

I thought I was managing things well—meal prepping, homeschooling, blogging, ministry-ing. But sometimes, the best thing I can do is pause. Sit. Look her in the eyes. Go outside and breathe.

Even homeschool looks different for us now. Less “sit still and do the workbook,” more “go outside and count the frogs.”

Let’s be honest—a walk in the yard or five minutes on the porch with a cup of tea can do wonders for a weary soul.

3. Schedule Time for You

This one feels impossible. But it’s not selfish—it’s survival.

I talked about this in my hormone support blend post, and let me tell you—I know this works because I’ve lived it. I still do. There are days I’ve had to step away, close my bedroom door, and grab a hot shower while my husband takes over with the kids. It’s not a luxury—it’s a necessity. I’ve learned that I have to check out for a minute so I can come back refreshed and ready to pour into my family again.

Even if it’s just five minutes with the door closed and the diffuser going, or a few deep breaths behind the bathroom door—take the time. You cannot pour from an empty cup. (And if you’re running on caffeine and fumes… I see you. Been there.)

You don’t need a weekend getaway to rest. Sometimes, it’s just a foot soak and a deep breath in the middle of a chaotic Tuesday.

Want to try my go-to hormone support blend? Click here for the full recipe gift set you can DIY or give to a fellow mom who needs a break.

4. Connect With Other Women in the Word

Flourishing in chaos often comes down to community. Whether it’s your church small group, a mom friend who brings over coffee, or someone who simply reminds you to breathe—we weren’t meant to do life alone.

Even a text that says, “Praying for you” can reset your entire perspective.

Not sure where to begin? That’s why I created my 5-Day Devotional for Women Who Do It All. It’s short, grace-filled, and designed for busy hearts who need real refreshment.

5. Don’t Forget—You’re Still Growing

Psalm 92 reminds us that even in old age, the righteous will bear fruit. That means you’re not done yet. Whether you’re 25 or 65, your roots go deeper, your faith grows stronger, and your influence becomes richer.

And those grays? Proverbs 16:31 calls them a crown of splendor. (If that’s true, then I must be royalty.)

“The Lord is upright; He is my Rock.”
—Psalm 92:15

That’s the secret right there. It’s not in the planner. It’s not in the perfect routine. It’s in Him.

When we anchor ourselves in His truth, we flourish in ways that schedules and systems never could.

You Can Flourish When Life Feels Chaotic

You may not feel like you’re flourishing right now. You might feel more like you’re floundering. But if you’re rooted in Christ, you are growing—right in the middle of the mess.

Psalm 1:3 reminds us, 

"He shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper." 

This verse is such a beautiful picture of what it means to flourish when life feels chaotic—our surroundings may shift, but when we’re rooted in God, we can still thrive. When we dig in deep—even when the ground feels shaky—our roots tap into something stronger than ourselves. Our fruit will be greater when we flourish in the middle, not just when things feel stable.

And friend, God is right there with you—in the middle of the noise, the laundry, the tears, the laughter. The greatest relief you can find in the chaos isn’t always control—it’s praise. Lifting your hands, your heart, and your voice to Him even when you don’t know what’s next.

So take heart. Even if your calendar is a disaster and your kitchen looks like a flour bomb exploded… you’re still blooming.

God’s grace isn’t reserved for peaceful mornings and tidy houses. It shows up in spilled coffee, broken routines, and the beautiful chaos of raising a family and walking in faith.

You were made to flourish. Not when things are perfect—but right here, right now.

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When Busyness Replaces Slowing Down to Honor God

We wear busy like a badge of honor. I’ve done it. You’ve probably done it, too. We say yes when we should say, “Not today.” We fill our calendars until there’s not even room to breathe, much less rest.

But friend, even Jesus rested. He withdrew from the crowds. He took time to pray, to eat, to sit and be.

If the Savior of the world made time for rest, shouldn’t we?

Why Slowing Down as a Way to Honor God Feels So Hard

Let me just say this—slowing down sounds lovely in theory. But in reality? It can feel downright impossible.

I’m in one of the busiest seasons of my life right now. And I catch myself thinking, If I can just get through this week… if I can just finish this one project… if I can just keep going, maybe I’ll finally catch up—then I can rest.

But here’s the truth: there’s always something else waiting. Another load of laundry. Another appointment. Another need to meet.

And still—God whispers, Stop. Rest. Be still.

I can’t help but think of Jesus. Fully God, yes. But also fully human. I imagine Him surrounded by people who needed healing, teaching, miracles. He saw their pain. He knew their needs. And yet—He still stepped away.

He wasn’t ignoring the needs. He was preparing for what came next.

Jesus rested not because He was weak—but because He was wise.

He understood the purpose of margin. The power of pausing. And if our Savior made space to slow down… surely we can, too. Even when it feels like the world will keep spinning without us (and let’s be honest, it will).

The Gift of Rhythms: Honoring God with Rest

In Stop, Rest, and Eat, I reflected on Elijah’s story and how God instructed him to rest and eat during his lowest moments. That rhythm of grace—pausing to care for our physical and spiritual needs—extends beyond Elijah’s experience. It reminds us that in our own lives, creating space to rest and nourish ourselves is essential.

• It’s in saying no to one more commitment.
• It’s in taking a walk without your phone.
• It’s in pausing before you say yes—asking, “Does this align with what God is asking of me right now?”

Rhythms aren’t just about routines. They’re about intentional space to breathe, listen, and lean into God.

Slowness as Worship: How It Honors God Deeply

Slowing down gives God room to speak. When we’re still, we notice things—His presence, His provision, even His peace. It’s not that He wasn’t there before. It’s just that we were too loud to hear Him.

“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” – Matthew 11:28

Rest isn’t just for tired bodies—it’s for weary hearts.

Let’s Slow Down and Reflect

What keeps you from slowing down right now? Grab a notebook or scrap of paper and jot it down. Then, write a short prayer asking God to help you trust His rhythm over your own timeline. When you feel like you’re falling behind, remind yourself—rest isn’t wasted. It’s worship.

Still learning to pause (and praying you do too).

If this post encouraged you, here are a few more that might speak to your heart:

• Stop, Rest, and Eat
• Being a Mary in a Martha World: Finding Peace in Presence Over Perfection
• Where’s the Rain, Lord?
• Disconnected
• Finding the Time

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Kneading Faith: A Devotional for the Christian Homemaker

If today’s reflection on slowing down and honoring God resonated with you, consider exploring Kneading Faith—a 10-day devotional that intertwines the art of sourdough baking with spiritual growth. Each day offers Scripture readings, faith-based insights, prayer prompts, and encouraging quotes to help you embrace patience and trust in God’s process.

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Remember, I’m always praying for you, even if I don’t know who you are!

Learning to Grow Together in Marriage

Learning to trust God’s timing when waiting feels hard was a lesson my husband and I learned early in our marriage. I could tell you story after story about our beginnings in marriage. We were so excited to have our own home and officially say we were married. But that second year? That’s when the rubber met the road.

That’s when we began to realize just how stubborn we both were. How each of us had our own ways of doing things and neither of us wanted to budge. It made for a huge mess.

We were both just plain stubborn. And we were convinced that our way was the right way.

How we did finances? Different. How we cleaned? Different. Where we put things away? Completely different.

But here’s what changed everything—when we finally set our minds to doing things God’s way, that’s when things began to shift. We started setting our selfishness (yes, that’s what it really was) aside and realized if we wanted this marriage to work, both of us would need to take a step back, reevaluate, and let God work through us.

“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” — Ecclesiastes 4:12

We were two young kids from completely different backgrounds, trying to come together and create something brand new. And it wasn’t easy. But every time we invited God to be front and center, we were able to navigate those learning curves with a little more grace and a lot more patience.

Trusting God’s Timing in Motherhood

Fast forward a few years and God threw us another curveball. After over five years of marriage, God called us to move to another state to pastor a small home missions church.

We left everything we knew — our family, our comfort zone, and all the plans I thought I had perfectly laid out. Moving 13 hours away with no jobs lined up and no house waiting for us was one of the scariest steps of faith we had ever taken.

But I firmly believe that our obedience in that season opened the door for our first miracle. After ten years of marriage—and after being told we would never have children—we held our first baby in our arms. Trusting God’s timing when waiting feels hard wasn’t just a lesson anymore—it became our testimony.

Years later, after returning home to pastor once again (this time with a home but still no job), God blessed us with our second miracle—a baby boy born a day before our 18th anniversary. Another beautiful reminder that God’s blessings often follow obedience.

But in between those miracles came heartbreak.

At year 14 of marriage, we lost our second child at 21 weeks. And can I just be honest? I wrestled hard with God through that grief. Why? I still don’t know. But even in the middle of all my questions and heartache, I knew one thing for sure—God is faithful.

“He makes everything beautiful in its time.” — Ecclesiastes 3:11

Finding Contentment While Trusting God’s Timing

And let me tell you — trusting God’s timing when waiting feels hard becomes a whole lot harder when we’re frustrated and discontent in the waiting. Learning to be content right where we are, even when life feels messy or uncertain, has been a lesson God keeps bringing me back to over and over again.

“Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.” — Philippians 4:11

That’s exactly why I wrote this post: How to Be Content in Every Season: 10 Biblical Steps to Learn Peace. Because contentment isn’t about settling — it’s about trusting. Trusting that God knows what He’s doing. Trusting that His timing is best. And trusting that even in the wait, He is working.

And if you want to go even deeper in building a Christ-centered home (especially when life feels chaotic), this post might encourage you too: How to Build a Christ-Centered Home (Even When Life Gets Messy).

3 Practical Ways to Trust God’s Timing in Marriage & Motherhood

1. Pray first, react second. Before the words fly or frustration rises, pause. Whisper a prayer. Let God guide your response.
2. Look for the lesson, not the deadline. Waiting seasons are often growth seasons. Ask God what He’s teaching you instead of focusing on when it will be over.
3. Give yourself and others grace. Nobody gets it right all the time. Marriage and motherhood are both full of learning curves. Be patient with yourself and the people you love.

Keep Trusting When the Wait Feels Long

Friend, I don’t know what season you’re walking through right now. Maybe you’re in the middle of learning new rhythms with your spouse. Maybe motherhood feels a little chaotic. Or maybe you’re waiting for a promise to come to pass.

Whatever it is, I want to remind you of this:

God’s not in a hurry. He’s not caught off guard by your timeline. And He’s certainly not finished writing your story.

His timing grows us, shapes us, and leads us closer to Him. So take a deep breath, sweet friend. Trust His heart. Trust His plan. And keep walking in step with His beautiful, grace-filled rhythm—even when waiting feels hard.

“The Lord is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him.” — Lamentations 3:25

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Want to read more of our story? Here are a few posts you might love:

• We’re Just Friends — Our Love Story
• A Tangible Miracle
• A Tangible Miracle 2
• The Pain of Unanswered Prayers

Why It’s Okay to Be Different

The first verse that comes to mind is:

“Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord” – 2 Corinthians 6:17

Paul wasn’t just talking to any ol’ group—he was speaking to a church wrestling with immorality and pagan influence. Sound familiar? Because, if you read through the New Testament, you’ll find society then looked an awful lot like today.

It’s easy to get caught up in the noise. But we’re called to be holy—set apart.

“Be ye holy, for I am holy.” – 1 Peter 1:16

“Set your mind on things above, not on things of this earth.” – Colossians 3:2

(And yes, I wrote about that one here: Let This Mind Be in You)

The world won’t always understand your choices. That’s okay. God didn’t call us to blend in—He called us to stand firm.

How to Start Creating a Christ-Centered Home

Here’s the good news: You don’t need to have it all figured out. You don’t need to explain your choices to the world. But you do need to keep Christ at the center.

Start with Prayer (Yes, Even the Ugly Cry Kind)

Prayer humbles us. It keeps us grounded when marriage is rocky, when the kids are wild, or when ministry feels heavy. And even when things are smooth, prayer reminds us who’s in control. Spoiler: It’s not us.

First, start your mornings with prayer, even if it’s just five minutes before the day begins. Let your kids hear you pray. Let your spouse see it. Prayer is the heartbeat of a Christ-centered home.

Make Time for Quiet (And No, Hiding in the Closet Doesn’t Count)

Next, quiet time is a reset button. It helps us hear God’s voice and follow His lead. I’m a huge advocate for your time—but let’s not forget to carve out time for Him too.

If you’re a busy mom juggling school runs, laundry mountains, and crockpot meals, your quiet time might be in the car pickup line. That counts. It all matters.

Put Christ at the Center of Your Marriage

Now I love my husband deeply—but we are both stubborn and passionate (read: spicy). If Christ hadn’t been at the center of our marriage? Whew, it would’ve been chaos.

Want to see change? Start by praying for your spouse. I highly recommend The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. If you’re struggling to connect, ask God to soften both your hearts. He is more than capable.

Remember, your marriage is a ministry, too. When you make Christ the glue that binds you together, petty frustrations lose their power.

Raising Kids Who Want to Live for God

Kids are little sponges with ears that hear everything. (Including your sass, mom. Ask me how I know.)

In fact, they watch how we live. So, teach them to pray. Explain the “why” behind your choices. No, you don’t have to explain everything—but when you do, they’ll catch on. They’ll see your faith in action, and that’s powerful.

Read Scripture together. Celebrate wins. Apologize when you miss the mark. Teach them how to forgive. Model what grace looks like.

A Christ-centered home is one where kids don’t just hear about God—they see Him lived out daily.

What Happens When Christ is the Center

When Christ is at the center, your home changes. Peace settles in. Homemaking feels less like drudgery. Loving your people becomes a joy—not a chore.

And if you’re in ministry? It gives you the grace to handle even the hard conversations with love—because you know God’s got your back.

A Christ-centered home becomes a refuge. It’s not perfect, but it’s filled with grace. It doesn’t avoid storms, but it knows who calms them.

You’re Not Alone in This

Ultimately, creating a Christ-centered home doesn’t mean perfect. It means intentional. You’ll mess up (I do too!), but His grace is new every morning. Let’s lean into that.

This kind of home is built day by day. One prayer, one choice, one intentional moment at a time.

So whether you’re scrubbing dishes, homeschooling littles, planning a sermon, or collapsing into bed at 9 PM with dry shampoo in your hair—know this: you are doing holy work.

You’ve got this, friend. And more importantly, God’s got you.

Ready to Start Building Your Christ-Centered Home?

What’s one small way you’re keeping Christ at the center of your home this week? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments—it encourages more people than you know.

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Keeping Christ at the Center

My husband and I prioritize our relationship with God first and foremost. He is the center of everything we do. When we counsel young couples before marriage, we always remind them that it is no longer about “ME” in the relationship, but the “M” turns upside down and becomes “WE.”

Ephesians 5:25 reminds us, 

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” 

If a husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church, then that love is selfless, sacrificial, and enduring. And as a wife, my respect for him strengthens our relationship just as my love does.

When we put God first, everything else falls into place much more smoothly. Life isn’t perfect, but knowing we are both walking in the same faith brings a peace that nothing else can provide. Pray together daily, even if it’s just a short prayer before bed or in the morning. It strengthens your connection with God and each other.

Respect: A Key to Long-Lasting Marriage

Respect is something I’ve talked about in my Marriage Matters series, and it plays a huge role in keeping our marriage strong. If you want to dive deeper into this, check out my Marriage Matters series from last summer or the video playlist linked below.

Knowing when too much is too much—when to pause, breathe, and let go—is a form of respect that helps us keep balance in our home. Respect isn’t just about words; it’s about understanding, listening, and valuing each other’s needs.

Marriage requires learning how to give each other space while staying connected. It means being mindful of your spouse’s stress levels, recognizing when they need encouragement, and respecting their boundaries when they need a moment to breathe.

Helpful Tip: Use kind words intentionally. Even when discussing difficult topics, focus on respect and encouragement rather than criticism.

Prioritizing Your Marriage Even Over Parenting

Our children are a blessing, and they should be raised with love and care—but they will grow up and move on. And when that happens, I don’t want to look at my husband and feel like I’m living with a stranger.

If I haven’t learned how to live with him, converse with him, have fun with him, and just do life together, then what will we do when the kids are grown? Growth in marriage is vital. Keeping it alive is just as important.

We have to remember that marriage is a lifelong partnership. Investing in that relationship now ensures that when the nest is empty, the foundation of love, laughter, and companionship remains strong.

Helpful Tip: Plan regular date nights—even if it’s just a simple walk together or a coffee at home after the kids are asleep. Prioritize time alone.

Making Adjustments: Letting Go of What Doesn’t Work

Have you ever set up a pantry or organized a closet only to realize later that it doesn’t really work? You thought it would be great, but it turns out, it’s just not practical.

Marriage is like that too. We have to be honest about what’s not working, let go of old frustrations, and adjust to make things better. Just like rearranging the home, we have to rearrange and adapt in our relationships too.

Marriage requires seasons of adjustment. What worked in the newlywed stage may not work 10 years in, and that’s okay. The key is to be intentional about making changes together.

Helpful Tip: Schedule a “marriage check-in” every few months. Talk about what’s working and what could improve.

Marriage Is a Commitment—Not Just a Moment

When I said “I do,” I meant it—in sickness and in health, for better or worse, for richer or poorer. But marriage isn’t just about saying “I do” once. It’s about choosing each other every single day.

A house can be brand new, but if you don’t maintain it, it will eventually start to fall apart. A marriage is the same way—it requires care, work, and intentional renewal.

I don’t want my marriage to end up like an old abandoned home, falling apart from neglect. I want it to be rich and full of life, full of laughter, and something my children aspire to have (even though right now they think it’s “gross”).

They see our love—but they also see that it takes work to keep it strong.

Helpful Tip: Surprise your spouse with a small act of kindness—like a thoughtful note, their favorite snack, or a spontaneous hug. Little things go a long way.

Marriage Is About “We,” Not “Me”

Marriage isn’t about “me” anymore—it’s about “we.” Whether it’s working through challenges, celebrating victories, or simply doing life together, our commitment to each other is strengthened in the everyday moments.

So today—right in the middle of dishes, kids, work, and ministry—choose to renew your love.

Want more on marriage? Check out my Marriage Matters series and video playlist below!

Letting Go of Perfection

A clutter-free space can bring a sense of calm and organization. Take a few moments each day to reset your home by:

•  Setting a 10-minute timer – Quickly tidy up high-traffic areas like the kitchen and living room.
•  Creating “drop zones” – Have designated baskets or trays for keys, mail, and other frequently used items.
•  Donating what no longer serves your home – Ask, “Does this item add peace or clutter to my space?”

One of the best things I’ve ever done for myself in creating an atmosphere of love is letting go of the need for perfection. It may seem strange, but I used to have full-on meltdowns whenever people were coming over, worried that everything wasn’t in perfect order. I’ve learned (and am still learning) that guests don’t walk in judging my baseboards or checking the dust on my ceiling fan (thankfully!).

Now, when someone drops by, as long as my home is somewhat tidy and doesn’t emit some weird smell, I can stay relatively calm. My kids might argue otherwise, but I’ve picked up some tricks along the way. One game-changer? My 4-week cleaning schedule. I know I’ve mentioned it a lot lately, but it truly is a lifesaver! Instead of trying to tackle everything in one exhausting day, I pace myself.

Is it just me, or do you ever start cleaning one room, pick up an item to put away, and suddenly find yourself cleaning another room? Then another? Before you know it, you’ve spent an hour bouncing from space to space with no real progress. I’ve been that girl! That’s why having a list helps me stay on track. I tackle what I can in a day—nothing more, nothing less.

Embracing the Season of Life You’re In

I’d love to say I have 30 minutes every Saturday to tackle extra cleaning, but that’s not my reality right now. And that’s okay. A time will come when my schedule is less demanding, but for now, I’m fully present in this season with my husband and kids.

My husband and I joke that when we finally get a moment alone, I always say, I’m bored. Maybe that sounds crazy, but my family is my world. I love spending my time with them. And though one day they’ll move on with their own lives, they’ll always know I’m here for them.

Cozy Decor & Lighting

Small changes can make a big impact in creating a warm, inviting home:

 Soft textures – Add throw blankets, fluffy pillows, or area rugs to cozy up your space.

 Warm lighting – Swap out harsh white bulbs for warm-tone lighting or use candles and lamps in the evening.

 Seasonal touches – Even though it’s winter, bring in nature with dried flowers, a bowl of fresh citrus, or a simple evergreen wreath.

Essential Oils for a Loving Cozy Home

Scent plays a powerful role in setting the mood of your home, and for me, it’s one of the quickest ways to create a sense of peace and comfort. My son and I have incredibly sensitive noses—we can detect even the slightest unpleasant odor. There’s nothing worse than walking into a home that doesn’t smell fresh. That’s one reason I love essential oils. They not only freshen the air but also create a calming and cozy atmosphere.

The New Year Peace Blends are perfect for diffusing calm and love throughout your space:

 Lavender & Cedarwood – Promotes relaxation and a peaceful heart.

 Frankincense & Sweet Orange – Uplifts the spirit and encourages a warm, welcoming atmosphere.

 Roll-On Blend – Apply to pulse points for a moment of peace in a busy day.

If you haven’t signed up for our monthly essential oil email, you should! You’ll receive a new blend straight to your inbox each month. Or, check out the oil blends already available on the blog. New Year Peace Blend is a great place to start. Something else that matters to me? The way my home smells.

Cozy Looks Different for Everyone

To me, cozy means snuggling up on the couch with my kids or husband under warm blankets. It’s baking in the kitchen with the delicious aroma of sourdough bread (or cookies—who can resist?). It’s helping my kids design their rooms so their personalities shine through, making them feel truly at home.

But more than anything, a cozy atmosphere starts with you—the parent, the spouse, the person you are. The energy you bring into your home sets the tone for everyone else. If you’re constantly stressed or angry, those emotions spread. But when you choose joy, love naturally follows, filling every corner of your home.

"By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches." -Proverbs 24:3-4

This verse reminds us that a truly peaceful home isn’t just about decor or cleanliness—it’s about the wisdom and understanding that goes into building a home filled with love, patience, and care. It’s about creating a space where every member of the family feels valued and nurtured.

"And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony." - Colossians 3:14

Love is what ties everything in our homes together. Without it, even the most beautifully decorated space can feel cold. But when we approach our homemaking with love—whether that’s through an encouraging word, a lovingly prepared meal, or simply being present—we create a home that radiates warmth and harmony.

At the end of the day, coziness isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence. When we are intentional about the atmosphere in our homes, we create a space where love can flourish. What’s one simple way you can cultivate warmth in your home this week?

Remember, I’m always praying for you, even if I don’t know who you are!

The Power of Small Acts of Love Rooted in Faith

This past December, my husband and I celebrated 26 years of marriage. I’d love to tell you that every year was easy, but that wouldn’t be the truth. However, through every challenge, we have grown in love and understanding.

If you’d like to read how our story began, check out my post, We’re Just Friends.

What I’ve learned is that the things that mean the most in marriage are often the smallest gestures. When I’m overwhelmed, and my husband steps in without me asking—just to ease my load—it speaks love in ways words never could.

He listens to the little things, the ones I sometimes don’t even realize I’ve said. Those moments remind me that love isn’t about grand gestures; it’s in the everyday acts of kindness and attentiveness.

Faith-Based Ways to Show Love Every Day

Here are some simple, faith-filled ways to show love that can make a big impact:

• Leave a sticky note on the steering wheel or bathroom mirror with a Bible verse and encouragement.
• Fix his or her favorite meal or dessert without being asked as a way to serve in love.
• Send a thoughtful text message with a prayer or uplifting scripture during the day.
• Take care of a small task that your spouse normally handles to lighten their load as an act of selflessness.
• Hold hands more often, even when sitting on the couch, and pray together daily.
• Express gratitude out loud for something your spouse does regularly, affirming them in their role.
• Plan a small surprise, like a favorite coffee or a simple date night at home, as a reminder of your commitment.
• Pray over your spouse daily and let them know you are covering them in prayer.

Biblical Encouragement for Marriage

The Bible is full of reminders about the power of love and small acts of kindness. One verse that always comes to mind is 

“With all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love,” (Ephesians 4:2). 

Marriage is about patience, humility, and listening to each other even when life gets chaotic.

Another verse that speaks to me is: 

“Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself." (Philippians 2:3). 

When we put our spouse’s needs above our own and practice selflessness, we create a marriage built on trust and faith.

Making Time for One Another Through Faith

In the middle of raising a family, running a home, and for many of us, serving in ministry, it’s easy to let time together slip through the cracks. But making space for each other, even in the simplest ways, is vital.

It doesn’t have to be extravagant—sometimes, a night on the couch together can be just as meaningful as a date night out.

If you need ideas, check out my post, Creative and Budget-Friendly Date Night Ideas.

Strengthening Your Marriage Through Intentionality and Prayer

Last June, in our Marriage Monday series, we talked about ways to strengthen marriage through intentionality and faith. If you missed those posts, I encourage you to go back and check them out.

One resource I want to offer you is my guide, 10 Tips for Navigating Marriage & Ministry. And while it’s written with ministry in mind, the principles apply to any marriage. You can download it and use it as a tool to invest in your relationship.

Encouragement for the Journey

Marriage, like faith, is a journey. There are highs and lows, victories and struggles. But one thing remains—love grows when nurtured. Small, intentional acts of kindness, a listening ear, a thoughtful word—these things add up and build a marriage that stands strong through the years.

I want to encourage you today. Whether you are newly married or have decades behind you, take a moment to invest in the small things. Tell your spouse you appreciate them. Step in where they need support. Make time, even when life is busy. And most importantly, pray together, seek God’s guidance, and keep Christ at the center of your marriage.

Love isn’t in the grand moments alone—it’s in the everyday, in the small gestures that leave a big impact.

Let’s keep choosing love, one moment at a time.

Remember, I’m always praying for you, even if I don’t know who you are!